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I'm not terribly eloquent and I've no real way to categorise my thoughts on this, but I've been chatting with ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
tsunderes most of the afternoon on things like feminism, rape culture, gender/sex expectations as relates to college/dating/the workplace, etc.
Most people who know me know I dislike feminism. Not the ideal, necessarily, because I do believe in equality of the sexes, but the label of feminism and being a feminist, since I think most women who consider themselves thus are missing the point. I tend to take somewhat misogynistic views (partly because I think misogyny is, at its core, hilarious because it's so misguided and partly because I think women are batshit insane, myself included), but reading essays on rape culture had me actually stopping to think about it a little bit and whether said misogyny is of my own making or something that society breeds because lol women.
The same goes for relationships. I mean, I'm married and such, but am I married because I wanted to be married or am I married because it was expected of me? Am I married because I was raised seeing that as the norm and so have told myself that this is what I want? Am I living my own life or am I meeting the expectations set to me by society and, in particular, men? (Since women who don't get married are spinsters or sluts, but men who don't get married are perfectly fine and, as much as I hate to say it because ew feminism, that is a rather male-dominated way of viewing the world.)
But then there's the whole idea that women are raised to be subservient to men, to want a man, to never fight and to keep silent, etc. etc. Rape culture, as I mentioned. (For reference, this essay.) Which sort of ties into the whole feminist thing and whether or not I'm living up to my own expectations or someone else's and just osdbuogbsg I don't even know. I don't want to be a feminist, but I understand some of these feminist perspectives, but at the same time I'm like 'but not every guy is like that' and I don't want to view the world through 'MEN ARE RAPISTS' glasses like I know some women do and osudbgosb argh
THIS IS WHY I DON'T TALK ABOUT THIS STUFF I lose my train of thought.
At any rate. Just. Your thoughts, flist.
One of these days I'll do a rant about fiction vs reality but I'm too lazy
tsunderes most of the afternoon on things like feminism, rape culture, gender/sex expectations as relates to college/dating/the workplace, etc.Most people who know me know I dislike feminism. Not the ideal, necessarily, because I do believe in equality of the sexes, but the label of feminism and being a feminist, since I think most women who consider themselves thus are missing the point. I tend to take somewhat misogynistic views (partly because I think misogyny is, at its core, hilarious because it's so misguided and partly because I think women are batshit insane, myself included), but reading essays on rape culture had me actually stopping to think about it a little bit and whether said misogyny is of my own making or something that society breeds because lol women.
The same goes for relationships. I mean, I'm married and such, but am I married because I wanted to be married or am I married because it was expected of me? Am I married because I was raised seeing that as the norm and so have told myself that this is what I want? Am I living my own life or am I meeting the expectations set to me by society and, in particular, men? (Since women who don't get married are spinsters or sluts, but men who don't get married are perfectly fine and, as much as I hate to say it because ew feminism, that is a rather male-dominated way of viewing the world.)
But then there's the whole idea that women are raised to be subservient to men, to want a man, to never fight and to keep silent, etc. etc. Rape culture, as I mentioned. (For reference, this essay.) Which sort of ties into the whole feminist thing and whether or not I'm living up to my own expectations or someone else's and just osdbuogbsg I don't even know. I don't want to be a feminist, but I understand some of these feminist perspectives, but at the same time I'm like 'but not every guy is like that' and I don't want to view the world through 'MEN ARE RAPISTS' glasses like I know some women do and osudbgosb argh
THIS IS WHY I DON'T TALK ABOUT THIS STUFF I lose my train of thought.
At any rate. Just. Your thoughts, flist.
One of these days I'll do a rant about fiction vs reality but I'm too lazy